tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051668.post6748868729637873024..comments2023-05-09T08:53:24.450-06:00Comments on Mental Meanderings: Have We Met? Jacklyn Cornwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703031152094274587noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051668.post-22571464106997369852013-08-07T21:01:02.447-06:002013-08-07T21:01:02.447-06:00"I think you should just ignore people who at...<i>"I think you should just ignore people who attack you and use violent language. Life's too short to listen to that crap... </i>"<br /><br />I'll certainly follow your advice.Jacklyn Cornwellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07703031152094274587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051668.post-18698626938375637152013-08-07T20:54:19.244-06:002013-08-07T20:54:19.244-06:00Well, the irony of what you have just said about M...Well, the irony of what you have just said about ME, is that YOU are doing exactly what you are blaming others of. If you read what I said CAREFULLY, which is exactly what you are asking of your reader, you will see that I did NOT jump to any conclusions, label you or cast you as the villain. This is the blame game and is absolutely non constructive. I merely pointed out to you how a person may react to what you have said. If you can't accept what an outside opinion of your writing says, I'm afraid you may be dooming yourself to failure. <br />I love feedback on my writing, good and bad. I was only sharing this so you could think about it and ponder its usefulness within the framework of your longterm and overall goals. Writing, as making a movie, is essentially for an audience and every person will interpret it in a different way, usually not the way you meant it. It is important to take that into consideration.<br /><br />Also, I clearly said IMHO, in my humble opinion. I definitely don't claim to be right. Just sharing my feelings. I apologize if that made you feel labeled. Jumping to the defensive, definitely isn't a great way to foster discussion though. <br /><br />I think you should just ignore people who attack you and use violent language. Life's too short to listen to that crap...the savage detectivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15446617863630726649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051668.post-71311642023380385532013-08-06T16:14:11.748-06:002013-08-06T16:14:11.748-06:00Thank you for reading and for your view of the sec...Thank you for reading and for your view of the second to last paragraph. I was not speaking about the poor in general, but about my own experiences. Again, you would have to know me better and get to know me personally to make the judgment you just made. <br /><br />The fact is that I have lived next door to and known from personal experience what it's like to go without for long periods of time and then finally have some money for what you have missed. It is human nature to gather as much as possible of what you've missed without looking too far down the road to when you will have exhausted your money and resources and come back to the same place you were before the rash of cash -- or food stamps or welfare money or bonus check or whatever. <br /><br />It takes experience, maturity, and being taught that you will not miss anything if you give up the lobster in favor of what you could buy with the same dollars. The same goes for material goods as well. Just because you have the money now doesn't mean you will have the money later, as I have learned to my utter chagrin and embarrassment when it came time to pay the bills. All those things don't mean much when it comes time to pay the piper. <br /><br />Although living comfortably on welfare is difficult, it can be done, and should be a spur to getting off the dole and into a job with a regular paycheck. Too late we learn that satisfying that desire for something is not so satisfying once it is yours and the bill comes due. It's the way for most people without someone to guide and train them and for the immature. <br /><br />As you can see, there is more to me than your snap judgment. You have merely proven my point. You would have done better to ask than to judge. <br /><br />As for the reason for this post, it wasn't my family this time, although that is a constant problem, but a group of people who took a comment on a post and turned it into a label war with me as the villain, in much the same way you have done, except with far more disrespect and vehemence. More often than not, it is better to simply ask what someone means rather than deciding you already know -- or think you know what it looks like. <br /><br />I hope you will explore further. Feel free to ask questions. There are no stupid questions -- except the one you fail to ask. <br />Jacklyn Cornwellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07703031152094274587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051668.post-68132937369504413592013-08-06T14:43:28.089-06:002013-08-06T14:43:28.089-06:00I really enjoyed this post, even though it sounds ...I really enjoyed this post, even though it sounds like a rant after a recent run in with one of the shitty family members. I enjoyed it, because, I harbor many of those same feelings. And as much as I pretend not to care, it still hurts. It hurts that they won't support and love you for who you are and what you choose to do. It hurts to realize what a bunch of losers the people you grew up loving and idolizing really are. Life sucks sometimes, but fortunately, its mostly amazing and wonderful, as long as those people stay out of it.<br /><br />I'm constantly amazed at how much my friends do for me and take care of me, while my "family" ignores or "misses" any communication that doesn't directly benefit them.<br /><br />I would like to say, however, that INHO the last paragraph about your "independent" views, which reading them the way you wrote them makes it seem as if your politics hinge upon your disgust for the poor and needy (I know you will take issue with this and probably do not see yourself like this, I'm only telling you how it reads to a total stranger who accidentally stumbled upon your blog), would be best left off. And I did read the ENTIRE post. I see how it fits with the theme of labels, but it was like a nasty pinch at the end of what was an enjoyable post, and really has nothing to do with the main theme, whether you meant it or not, of being who you are, regardless of what family does to support you or not, and how family can be absent for years until something annoys them.<br /><br />Cheers and happy blogging!!! the savage detectivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15446617863630726649noreply@blogger.com